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Old 12-09-2013, 12:50 AM
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Originally Posted by Monogamish1 View Post
First major hurdle:
I'm wondering if you were being honest with yourself (or if he was being honest with you, or even if he was being honest with himself) about what his feelings and intentions with others actually were. Is it possible that what he actually desired was full romantic relationships with these people, and that the perceived failure to tell others he wanted platonic was actually a failure to tell you that he wanted more than platonic?

Second major hurdle:
Well, in the strictest sense, yes... it's possible to want two things at the same time even if those things are mutually exclusive. But if by "reconcile" you mean "meet both wants" then no, it's not possible for him to be mono with you and not give up his wife or deny his poly nature.
As I am sure any cat owner will be able to tell you,
someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
from getting into a box yourself.
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