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Old 03-31-2010, 11:44 PM
lisbeth lisbeth is offline
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: California
Posts: 17
Default emotional non-monogamy

After lurking for a while, I'm finally getting the courage to post here, look at me!

I'm very lucky to have found a life-partner who I've been with for several years. We're monogamous, although don't fit the mold of a "traditional" married couple, first because we're both female and second because it's OK to have deep friendships, even with ex-girlfriends or with new people we find attractive. You could say we're sexual exclusive but emotionally non-monogamous (is there an easier way to say that?)

Still, I never got very close to anyone besides my primary partner, until now. Recently I've been hanging out with a new friend... I always thought I could love two people at the same time and now I found out it's true, and very awesome! Also a little scary. It's sometimes hard for me to believe that my partner is OK with me spending lots of time with another woman, and that my new friend is truly respectful of my relationship and isn't trying to steal me or seduce me, but I've been working hard at communication and I think we have what it takes to make this work.

Curious to hear people's comments and/or questions, especially if you've experienced or witnessed a similar situation.
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