Originally Posted by Dagferi
Do you want to keep your marriage?
I cannot answer that question simply since the matter is not black and white to me.
I had come to the conclusion that I do not think we can work as a couple and both be happy. I told her this and we had a long talk but she's fighting to hold on and its a consequence of this conversation that I realized I feel that I love more than one person at a time. I don't want to feel like I am being shoved into a box I don't fit in though and I would be astonished if she actually went along with this at all.
I think marriage is arbitrary and that peoples needs change throughout life and who is good for you now might not be later. Marriage was important to her and I don't oppose it and wanted the relationship to continue so we got married. She knows my feelings about marriage.
I still love her but I am not willing to not be me.