Sweetheart you are being played.
He is lying to you and most likely lying to his wife. He told you what you needed to hear. In my opinion he is cheating on his wife. You have never met her in a year? Not even in passing?
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.