Originally Posted by AlwaysGrowing
The way SHE seems to use the term secondary is that it is a relationship purely for fun, with no needs. If a date is made and cancelled, a secondary has no right to be upset or sad because - hey, they're only a secondary, not a real partner with feelings!
Ouch. You're just a plaything?
Good call to exit that situation, but breakups do suck. Good luck regaining your balance.