Originally Posted by london
It's not the fact that i would be devastated if someone did this after a date or two, but the way I think I can minimise it ever happening is by being very strict about only dating people who fit the criteria I already mentioned.
But yeah, in honesty, I would probably be mildly pissed off by someone who knew I was poly, still wanted to date and then pulled out. I wouldn't voice it to them because I know i would be pissed due to my somewhat unrealistic expectation for people to "know themselves".
I feel exactly the same way, and so often I will use my many "mandatory" marked questions to see if I should even bother: some of my questions immediately are going to tell me not to even bother such as if they are interested in being in a "open" relationship or not or (love this one) if they believe jealousy is "healthy" or not.~
I know exactly what you mean, I have that same fear but I do try to give many people a consideration if only as a friend!~ ^_^