Is there a friendship to salvage or is it all going to be tainted by what could have been? Will she forgive you (and him) for whatever she perceives was done wrong so that there is a future in any capacity? Do you even WANT one since you were hurt
I was hoping to salvage the friendships but you are correct, I believe they would be tainted. The trust is gone.
As for coping mechanisms. Just trying to find the silver linings. I have no regrets. It was still worth being vulnerable, connecting & giving & receiving love.
As your name says, we are always growing.