Originally Posted by Firelight
He was given her "blessing" / "permission" but I believe she assumed nothing would happen. I think it was hurtful to her to be blindsided. I didn't communicate my feelings.
I don't understand how she could have been blindsided when there was "permission" already in place.
This is a crappy position to be in. I'm in the midst of it myself.
Is there a friendship to salvage or is it all going to be tainted by what could have been? Will she forgive you (and him) for whatever she perceives was done wrong so that there is a future in any capacity? Do you even WANT one since you were hurt so badly?
There's a lot to think about, cry about, and simply figure out. Let me know if you figure out any useful coping mechanisms.