I had a relationship with a cheater too, bofish, years ago when we first opened our marriage and I hadn't yet internalized the principles of polyamory even though I was identifying as poly. Mine wasn't as emotionally available as yours was, and that's why I ended the relationship, I met a poly guy who was emotionally available, and even thought the sex was light years better with the guy who was cheating, I opted for the guy who truly wanted to love and be loved. Not that I had to make a choice, but what the cheating guy was offering (great sex and not much else) didn't seem like enough of a reason to stick around after the novelty had worn off. In my experience most of the men who are cheating don't seem to be emotionally available, they just want sex and excitement.
We all live and learn, and hopefully learn to make better choices.
Last edited by scarletzinnia; 12-06-2013 at 04:29 PM.