Welcome to our forum.
Here's some links that may help you in the search for local poly friends and/or people to date:
"As for where to meet poly people, if by some chance you are interested in anything alternative like Renaissance fairs, goth culture, sci-fi conventions, indie music, bdsm, or any small fringe group, you will be more likely to meet people who have at least heard of poly and are accepting of it."
-- SpaceHippieGeek, http://polyamoryonline.org/smf/index...57394#msg57394
Even if it's not an "alternative" type group, if there's a club or something in your area that does something you're interested in, you can always join that group and it just gives you a way to get out there and meet people. If you meet someone on a platonic level and get to talking about poly, then they can decide how they feel about it without any "pressure to agree." Then if they do decide poly doesn't bother them too much, and some kind of romantic connection subsequently develops, you'll already have "had the poly conversation" with them.
When I picture New Zealand, I picture a beautiful but somewhat isolated place, so I can imagine it must be difficult and frustrating finding people who sympathize/agree with your polyamorous inclinations, let alone finding such people with whom you also share that magic chemistry we call romance! So be patient and if any of the above thoughts/links help then that's great too.
I think if you'll poke about on our website you'll find various threads and boards that call to you. Then you can post your questions and comments, and soon you'll be on your way to making new friends (both locally we hope and) around the world!
I'm normally an "intro board poster," but if you post elsewhere and want my thoughts on it, post (in this thread) a handy link that my lazy Homer-Simpson-like fingers can easily click on, and I'll give due time and attention to your referenced post.
It's good to have you with us, you gorgeous babe you.
Much warm regards,