Originally Posted by YouAreHere
In some poking around online recently, I found that I seem to fall into the "demisexual" bracket - that I don't really GET attracted to people until there's a connection. There's no lust for the hottie at the bar, that type of thing (although I can certainly aesthetically appreciate a nice-looking person
No desire to use it as a label for myself, but it explains that piece of me very well, I think. It's also why all this dating talk is kind of speculative for me, since I'd have to be in the situation where I'm either online dating or doing something else where I'm spending a lot of time in the "getting to know you" phase. I really haven't been in that situation.
I can so relate! I am all about the mental / emotional connection. While I notice pretty people - both male and female (I am female, btw) - they are like art to me. I don't have any attraction or sexual desire no matter how pretty anyone is, unless there is that connection.
Thank you for providing some terminology!