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Old 12-04-2013, 02:32 AM
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Originally Posted by PolyinPractice View Post
"more than a sub"
See, I took that not as "better than a sub" but "rather than a sub."

I've used that phrase before myself, so maybe I can relate... "I'm feeling disappointed more than sad."

"I was this and this and this more than a sub" does not, to me, sound the same as "I was this and this and this. I was more than a sub."

I can see both interpretations, and I can see how the "superior to a sub" interpretation would evoke opinions of privilege and "you got what you deserved." But I find that communication is more effective when I give people the benefit of the doubt and choose the more generous interpretations.

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There's an ignore feature? Gotta look into that. I've been really frustrated by the direction some of these conversations take. Over. And over. And over.
I prefer not to use ignores. It confuses me when someone responds to someone I have on ignore. I prefer to remain "in the loop" and then practice my ability to ignore people whose opinions aren't worth a response.
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