Thans so much guys.
Maybe I'll tell them "let's do it once" for now, and see how everyone feels about it afterwards. That way there isn't a commitment to any specific "ruling" for the next 4 months or whatever.
I do agree too, that perhaps my lady is being a bit to passive with her hubby if she really wants to come over for the night. I think she may be trying not to "rock the boat".
I don't want to call it quits, but if this doesn't get resolved, I'm not sure I could continue for very long. It sucks to have a relationship with someone yet go to bed alone every night.
Should I push for a return of the contract, or just see how things work out?