Just because someone doesn't want to meet their metamours, it doesn't make it a DADT. Not wanting to meet your metamours doesn't mean you won't be civil to them when they come to your paramours bday party either. Some people just have no interest or need to formally meet their metamour or spend time with them.
ETA I got confused about this thread. I just wouldn't be comfortable with anyone insisting on meeting a reluctant partner. Meeting metamours isn't something that has to happen and the Insistence that they meet insinuates that meeting is the right thing rather than something some people do.
Last edited by london; 12-03-2013 at 05:30 PM.