I understand that. but having not known us, its kind of a messed up thing to say. but whatever, I see what your trying to say. and im sorry if it seems that way.
we did not confront her last night, she told us she was at home, and so that's what we have to believe.
the more that we are together, the more it feels like she wants to be with us. so its just going to take some time.
until then yes we will be "mellowing" out.
ill try anything once, twice if I like it.