Are you claiming that only subs and Doms are kinky and that anyone who is in a non-D/s relationship is vanilla?
That you are even aware of the term "vanilla" implies you have enough exposure to know otherwise.
Gralson and I do not have a power exchange relationship, but we're anything but vanilla. Would you care to see our collection of floggers, paddles, ropes, and clothespins?
Gralson: my husband (works out of town).
Auto: my girlfriend (lives with her husband Zoffee).
The most dangerous phrase in the English language is "we've always done it this way."