Originally Posted by bookbug
And just hypothesizing, you probably don't understand the hurts you inflict on him by not accepting who he is.
Nope I would fully understand *IF* I were asking him to change who he is how it would hurt. I'm not. I'm just fully aware if what *I* want for myself.
When I was living poly, I once left a partner because he was pushing me to leave my hubby because the hubby didn't treat me right... so I KNOW the hurts that would cause (funny thing was, had he not pushed, I would have left my ex hubby over a decade sooner than I eventually did)