Following your heart is the best advice you can give, Mono. Following others because of their expectations of you, makes you a sheep. Who wants to be a sheep?
For decades my eye was always on the future. Studying, planning, working. I missed quite a bit of life. Thank God(if you believe) for my wife and her giving me the freedom in our narriage to do many things, never once applying a stranglehold on me....and that was way before I even thought of going down the poly trail! You only get one dance. This ain't no dress rehearsal. We can't go round again. Do what you love, love the way you want. Screw the sheep! Well, er, not literally......that's a whole different community I want no part of, thank you...lol