If she was telling a lie, then that's dishonest by just about any metric. But how do you feel about omissions? Many people don't consider omissions to be dishonest. Some people value privacy above or equal to honesty. So to that end, your need to have everything on the table may not be compatible with her need to have privacy.
the only reason I said lying and dishonesty is because, we had plans. solid, talked to you a few hours earlier" type of deal. and then all of a sudden, shes not at home like she said she was, and is not talking to me, we haven't heard from her today, despite her being on facebook and her insatiable need to "make it up to us" by cooking us dinner and watching the game with us.
if she doesn't want to tell us stuff, that's fine, but when it comes to this sort of thing, when feelings are developing, there shouldn't be anything held back. right?
tonight is her last chance, and so far its looking grim to say the least.