Originally Posted by london
I don't know why you thought a sub wasnt a partner to begin with. It seems like you took security in being above a sub in some sense and now you've found out that having a sub doesn't mean it isn't a relationship like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. In fact, kinky people are more likely to settle with someone who is also interested in having kink based sex and/or relationships because of the added compatibility. Instead of taking comfort in you, the vanilla girlfriend, being above any sub he had, you should have thought about negotiating a non monogamous situation that privileges your relationship. Too late now.
I agree... I hope my response didn't indicate that I felt kink relationships weren't "real" relationships