Originally Posted by london
You see, one of my biggest fears is dating someone who I bond with, and then they decide they don't want either of us to be poly and I have to choose poly or them. Now, I know what I am most likely to choose, poly, but still, the idea of losing someone I've bonded with feels me with dread.
Due to my fear, I won't even reply to someone who either hasn't declared themselves to be non monogamous or mention the fact that I am poly and they are cool with it in their opening message.
How quickly do you bond? If a couple of emails are enough to leave you open to emotional trauma then you may need to work on that before you worry about the size of your dating pool.