I loooves me some poly forums. But there's just something about a live poly group you can meet with in your area that isn't quite the same thing, am I right?
To be able to look someone in the eye, see the face and body language of approval, shake their hand and say you're glad to see them again. My last poly potluck had so many happy greetings, yet so many wistful good-byes (as I move from Albuquerque to Seattle next week).
I know we'll find a new poly group in Seattle though, and make just as good of friends.
I hope things work out well for you guys, whether you end up with just the configuration you were looking for, or perhaps a pleasant surprise!
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"