Originally Posted by ColorsWolf
What happens if you fall in love with some one "outside your allowed rank": poly or not?~
This question has troubled me since I am already going in as a E-3 and I may go to E-4 within a year of my career and technically once I 'officially' get my 'rank' I'm afraid I won't be allowed to associate with most of my peers just starting out at my station as
I have been told any one 3 ranks above or below you is off-limits to even be friends with and I have considered forming a relationship with some one whom I met at MEPS but what if she and I end up as too great of a difference ranks?~
This 3-up/3-down is the general rule of followed by the US armed forces. But really in the Navy they have 4 rank groups: 'Blue Shirts' (which is further broken into 2 groups: Airmen/Firemen/Seaman (E1-E3), and Petty Officers (E4-E6), 'Khaki' (E7-E9), 'Warrant' (all CWOs), and 'Officers' (all Officer ranks). Really you should spend most of your time with members of your own rank grouping.
There are exceptions: teambuilding events: command, division, or department parties, BBQs, camp trips, etc... Right-Hand-Man events, where a senior-ranked member will take a junior member out for dinner/drinks as part of a thank you for job well-done, and when spending time with your 'mentor'.
Also, there are additional rules regarding fraternization that prohibit you from dating anyone within your chain of command.
-From MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE-Do not date anyone in your command! This can cause all sorts of trouble and really could make your time there pretty miserable.
You will occasionally see married folks with huge discrepancies of rank. These couples were married at a younger age, when both were within the same rank group before one was advanced at a faster rate than the other, or took part in a seaman-to-admiral program (or one like it).