Labels can be helpful as quick references, but I don't think there's any value in getting stuck at whether or not a label applies.
For me, I find that a label either resonates with me, or it doesn't. If it doesn't, there's no value trying to squeeze myself into that box just to please other people.
I prefer to think of the people involved as individuals, and then focus on the needs and feelings of those people. You could simply label it as "it's complicated" and leave it there.
Gralson: my husband (works out of town).
Auto: my girlfriend (lives with her husband Zoffee).
The most dangerous phrase in the English language is "we've always done it this way."
Last edited by SchrodingersCat; 11-30-2013 at 04:00 AM.