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Old 11-29-2013, 08:39 PM
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Originally Posted by WhatHappened View Post
And yet, most people like to feel that the person who is supposed to love them more than anyone in the world has their back and would be affected by hearing the one they supposedly love run down.
It just seems irrational to insist that a person respond to situations exactly according to their own personal standards. Hubby took the exact actions that his wife seems to have been insisting he take (in a perfectly non-controlling way) and yet she is STILL not happy with his actions.

Originally Posted by WhatHappened View Post
She's certainly entitled to her feelings about his response.
She's entitled to her feelings as they are entitled to theirs. I don't get to tell her how she needs to feel or express her feelings any more than she gets to tell him how to feel or express his.

Very good point WH, thanks.

The only reason I'm giving my input on what she is doing is because she came to a public discussion board and expressly asked for feedback... which I'm giving.
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