Originally Posted by JaneQSmythe
Well, I guess anyone can TRY to use ultimatums/vetoes...but I, personally, would not want to be in a relationship with someone who thought that that was "appropriate" or saw it as "right".
Sure, in a longer relationship (whether married or not) there might be more of a reason to forgive such tactics ... but if any relationship is at the point of ultimatums/vetoes then I think a whole lot of communication has been neglected.
Yes, one might see those things differently according to temerament and experience.
However, the point here was not ultimatums, but the use of the art of "sticking in there and hoping for the better". THAT is the tecnique one should not used when not in a commited, long-term relationship because the other person has given no reason to deserve such persistance.