Originally Posted by london
1. For me, the secrecy about your developing relationship stops this situation from being polyamorous although any of the people in it might be poly themselves.
2. I think you've got to let the guy work out what he wants from his marriage, if anything. He needs to decide if he wants polyamory more than his marriage because his wife isn't poly. The kid analogy really isn't very good, by the way.
3. What's done is done.
I agree with this.
Sue, hinge in a vee with Nate (Polysexual) and Sam (monogamous)