I'm glad Alex is paying attention to your feelings. That he's willing to do that is a very good sign, yes?
Guys are stupid...I know I am. Sometimes you superior intellects need to tell us when you want or need something. My GF is not at all shy about coaching me (surprise me with flowers now and then, phone regularly, cook with me, find special things to do together, etc).
Being guy-stupid is no excuse for not learning. Even relationship-dyslexic guys can get pretty good at showing that they care.