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Old 03-27-2010, 09:15 PM
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Originally Posted by Breathesgirl View Post
It's tuff being the non-primary partner.

It's hard when the one you love doesn't communicate in a compatible style. It is workable though.

My Possibility and I have different communication styles, sort of. We would both rather listen than talk, lol. This makes it difficult to work out issues.

What I've found that works best (& this from a councellor many, many years ago) is to talk in a non-confrontational manner about what you're feeling. Instead of "You made me feel this way" you would say "I feel this way when you do X". You're taking ownership of your feelings, you're not confrontational and you are getting your point across.

Sometime just having a place to vent & let your feelings have their way for a few minutes is all it takes for one to feel better.

I hope your date went well .
On this train of thought, there is a sticky on communication that could be helpful to read through.
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