and anybody who tells you
that they nary a disagreement in nearly a decade -- before you appeared -- and then tries to blow smoke up your ass with the bullshit story that it's you, here's the scoop on that:
* *almost* no agreements, either they have extremely selective memory, or else they think you volunteered to be the scapegoat, remind them that wasn't in the fine print.
* nothing wrong with triads, but denial kills all relationships, hang in there Dana, be honest with yourself and other and your vision will always be clear enough to guide you in the right direction. People unable to do get extremely envious, and if you let them, they will come up with some bullshit story as to why that's your fault too.