I feel that i can relate. My husband and i have been married for ten years, and i guess i should say our girlfriend is going to be moving in with us soon. My husband and i have an 8 year old son. My husband told me that he didnt want anymore children, so we made the decession to have my tubes tied. That was in 2011, now our girlfriend wants to have a child with him. It hurts me that this is going to happen because i gave up the ability to have more and cant have any without help. Im jealous of the fact that she will be able to have his children without any help. They both tell me that they want me to help raise there child as if it were my own. Somehow i just dont see that yet and i dont know if i ever will. I know its hard, just to let you know that your not alone in your feelings.