In New England, "guys" also tends to be a catch-all type of phrase, somewhat similar to the South's "y'all". But I digress.
How about "ladies"? I tend to use that one.
Mono. Divorced, two kids (DanceGirl, 15; and PokéGirl, 12), two cats, one house, many projects.
My partner. Poly. In relationships with me, Xena, and Noa.
Poly. In a relationship with Chops. Dating others.
Married, Poly. In a relationship with Chops.
External blog with a mono/poly focus: From Baltic to Boardwalk