Originally Posted by korindino
But when Jenny tells me how she loves her space when Alex is out of town, and when she says she doesn't love him as much as he loves her, it hurts me that she keeps me from spending time with him, when these last few weeks have been so rough on me and all I want is to see the man I love.
It sounds like you could be taking better care of you. The tone of your post sounds like you're expecting something from Alex. You need to "find your happy" in your own self, and when you do that, you'll find that you won't "need" him to be happy.
What's so great about Alex that you're willing to go through all this pain and suffering, waiting and hoping, just to be with him?
You're unlikely to change Jenny's willingness to fully open the relationship, allowing you and Alex to have the loving relationship you both want. And so you need to make a decision whether or not he's so fantastically awesome that being with him is worth having more grief than joy.
I know that sex is the ultimate expression for love in Alex's eyes. I know that when we have sex, he's trying to show me how much he cares. however, this view seems incredibly juvenile to me, and he is completely oblivious to the fact that being loved happens outside the bedroom, too.
And you believed him? His view doesn't just "seem" juvenile, sister, it IS. It's the line that 15-year-old boys give their girlfriends to get them to give it up.