Originally Posted by london
Erm, if she wants polyamorous relationships, and he wants sort of a more open relationship where emotional availability and romantic attahment is restricted outside the relationship, why doesn't she acknowledge their incompatibility and move on? Maybe I'm old fashioned.
Because it sounds like she loves him?
It sounds like you could just as easily ask Alleycat to move on to avoid the moral quandary or ask Freyja to move on to avoid lying to her BF. Leaving her BF leaves her in a decidedly not poly situation.
It seems more reasonable to suggest to the BF that she wants two BF than anything else, and if he vetoes it then she can move on. If he doesn't freak out then she can get two cakes.