I don't crush OR fall in love easily. Yet I am poly...go figure.
I always assumed that I would end up in a FFM vee or triad...but find that I am in an MFM Vee that seems to be destined to turn into a MFMFM "W" with a pseudo-triad at the center...the pseudo triad being "closed" at the moment while the "ends" are open...
The point is...life doesn't always turn out as you've planned. It's fine to have an idea of what you might like - but people, being people, have a way of entwining themselves to you in in unplanned and unexpected ways.
Be open. Be honest. Live in the moment...your ideal may be something you have never considered.
Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (23+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (4+ yrs) and MrS's best friend
Lotus: poly bi married female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS (1+ years)
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.
My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe