Originally Posted by london
You can say all that but from the time you perceive a man to be more of a threat than a woman would be when it comes to your partner, there is something going on which has led you to differentiate that way. And that thing stems from how you view men and how you view women. I suspect that you'll continue to deny this and never get to the bottom of why more than one penis on the scene freaks you out.
You could be right, but I know from reading many posts and examples of mono couples opening up their marriages, that it is not like a light switch. It is a work in progress. As I am not feeling like I am naturally wired for poly, and my wife seems to be (and/or is exploring it), I'm not simply going to switch overnight emotionally. Maybe many here can, but I have struggles but am willing to keep working on it.