Originally Posted by bofish
How old is your youngest child?
So, your lover knows that sleeping with other people is (in part) to arouse your wife? Or am I reading that wrongly?
This is exactly what she understands. She is a hedonist (by her definition) and enjoys whatever time we have together and has no expectations of long term dating (though it could be like that, just no label on it). We don't 'date' as in go out to dinners, hang out, etc...I go over to her home after I tuck my wife in to bed, and we please each other.
Our youngest is 18 months. Then 3 1/2. We also have 2 more from previous marriages.