oh oh! One other really cool thing. Right before I left I got to talk to my brother and his wife. For a long time I thought they were avoiding any mention or conversation of Susan because they disapproved. Turns out that isn't the case at all. They just weren't sure what I wanted and didn't know how to deal with it. I explained I was sorta looking for their approval and to share an important part of my life. They were fine with it and kinda laughed off that they, of all people, could disapprove. Pretty much agreed that if it wasn't being done dishonestly, then good for me.
That made me feel tons better. I was really aggravated when I thought they disapproved.
Me: 41 straight male in a V with
Wife: Kay - mono female - married 18 years
LDR ex? girlfriend: Susan - serial monogamist female - 4 year relationship ended? 9/29
Stakes - very intimate friend