I'd like to hear form other Life Loves aka "secondaries" (sorry for the term) on this issue. What you need, want, and feel comfortable with.
If anything I have more restrictive rules and expect less than Redpepper and her husband LOL! It is so funny to race with her husband for the back seat with thier son. I'm sure we totally confuse those around us who don't know the dynamic of our relationship.
Redpepper and her husband go out of thier way to make sure I feel welcome and get close time with her when we are all together. I actually don't even worry about it! Being viewed and interacting as a "close friend" is fine by me. What are your thoughts?