I feel for all of you. Unhealthy dynamic.
I know what it's like to deal with a partner who gets clean with you. Maca got clean 1 month before we started dating.
But-getting clean does NOT address the addiction issue at all. There's a lot of mental and behavior changes that have to be made beyond getting clean. Work many people don't bother to do.
I wish you the best.
"Love As Thou Wilt"