Originally Posted by holm
While we were arguing she would email him at work and he would be giving her reasons to choose him over me. She also verblly confirmed when we were fighting she did have feelings for him, but that she loves me and is married to me. I went to a counselor myself and she told me to forget about the suspected emotional affair (which she said she wouldn't confirm or deny without talking to my wife) because the problem was not the other guy, it was me and my not meeting her needs. .
Wow, I totally sympathise with you but because of the statements above I find myself too emotional to offer constructive advice vice destructive advice.
Snooping is a touchy subject because although everyone has a right to privacy, everyone also has a right to be respected and be treated with honesty and openess (you were not)
I feel for you
Peace and Love