Originally Posted by SchrodingersCat
It doesn't sound like your relationships adhere to the primary/secondary model?
No I do not.
I know I would not be happy having my wants and needs seen to second to someone elses. Ie having to change my plans with my partner because something came up with my metamour. Health problems, family emergencies and kid issues not included. So I do not play the whole primary secondary game. I do not believe in treating others as a back up plan.