Originally Posted by WhatHappened
But I'd be curious to know how many here go into a secondary relationship thinking, hoping, expecting, or planning that it might last a lifetime, that you might grow old with this person.
There was a thread a while back that I've been meaning to dig up in response to this one about what, essentially, are the limits of what a second partner can expect in a relationship.
I gave a long answer there ...but, in short, the only thing that is not available to Dude that MrS has is "legal marriage". Dude says he is here "for the long term" = not that that ensures that it will happen but that is everyone's intention
. We all share a household/finances/responsibilities. I don't know that we had that expectation when we started out but ... we didn't set any limits on how far things could evolve. And here we are.