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Old 11-18-2013, 03:52 AM
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Originally Posted by WhatHappened View Post

But I'd be curious to know how many here go into a secondary relationship thinking, hoping, expecting, or planning that it might last a lifetime, that you might grow old with this person.

I would further point out that in the typical primary or mono relationship, actions are taken that require commitment, that show that expectation of building a life together, that entwine lives: buying a house together, getting bank accounts together, having children together.

This is much less likely with a secondary relationship.
Me.. I approach all my relationships with the idea that this could be forever

Murf is my husband just as much as Butch is. We have made large purchases together. (we bought a brand new truck and just sold a classic car.) I bring money into both homes. I cook clean in both homes. I an on his accounts so I can call and inquire on issues.Murf is taking part in raising my children.

Yes it can be done, but folks have to stop putting limitations on the other partner.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 50/50 split of time between my two husbands.
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