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Old 11-18-2013, 03:52 AM
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Originally Posted by WhatHappened View Post

But I'd be curious to know how many here go into a secondary relationship thinking, hoping, expecting, or planning that it might last a lifetime, that you might grow old with this person.

I would further point out that in the typical primary or mono relationship, actions are taken that require commitment, that show that expectation of building a life together, that entwine lives: buying a house together, getting bank accounts together, having children together.

This is much less likely with a secondary relationship.
Me.. I approach all my relationships with the idea that this could be forever

Murf is my husband just as much as Butch is. We have made large purchases together. (we bought a brand new truck and just sold a classic car.) I bring money into both homes. I cook clean in both homes. I an on his accounts so I can call and inquire on issues.Murf is taking part in raising my children.

Yes it can be done, but folks have to stop putting limitations on the other partner.
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