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Old 11-17-2013, 05:57 PM
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And/or you could take the *really* direct approach. Ask him three simple yes-or-no questions:
  • Do you like me?
  • Do you want to be in this relationship with me?
  • Do you appreciate the efforts I've made in the relationship?
If "Yes" is his answer each time, then you could follow up with more advanced questions like:
  • What are some of the things you like about me?
  • Why do want to be in this relationship with me?
  • What is it about my relationship efforts that you appreciate?
If "No" is the answer to any of the first three questions, then at least you know there's a serious problem between you and him and he's finally admitting it. More advanced follow-up questions for "No" answers:
  • Why don't you like me?
  • Why don't you want to be in this relationship with me?
  • What is it about my relationship efforts that isn't doing it for you?
And finally, if he can't/won't even give you a simple yes-or-no answer to those first three questions, then you have pretty substantial proof that he *totally* doesn't want to talk to you about those things, one way or another. Which as I said, constitutes some kind of pathology on *his* part.

Just some food for thought.
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