Originally Posted by redsirenn
What about the weirdness with a partner actively looking? Do any of you experience that?
All I have to say is that when I met my husband or any of the other people that I've had "relation-ship" with, I was not actively looking then, either. So, I say to myself, why should it be any different now?
So I guess the answer is "no, I do not experience the weirdness, but if it happened, then I suppose it would feel weird". Not because of the "poly" factor, but because of the "actively looking" factor.
I think you are well within the territory of "normal" for experiencing the weirdness in this. I'm not sure what you can do about it though.