Originally Posted by SchrodingersCat
From what I've read: Chance and sheer dumb luck. Not looking for it, but having it just sorta happen when you're busy minding the tulips.
Laughing - we got THAT. Chance, sheer dumb luck, totally improbably events: two of three people totally going against their life-long principles, and the one poly member of the crew minding his own business while the other two just up and took off..
What I'm asking about is some of the nuts and bolts of what happened next, from others who have been down this path...
Thanks for replying! (also thanks to inyourendo, where the same answer sort of applies...)