How old are you? If you are in your early 20s and this was your first real relationship/love, I'd advise you to take your time deciding on whether to commit to someone long term. There's dating, there's moving in together, renting or buying a house, there's marriage, kids... take baby steps. I know young people "want it all and we want it NOW," as Jim Morrison once said. But taking your time and being careful has its benefits.
Especially since your breakup was terrible, full of "bottled up rage." It's a good idea to learn how to communicate your feelings and negotiate boundaries as issues come up, being completely honest every step of the way, owning your own shit, not expecting someone else to carry your baggage.
Don't bottle things up, but also learn how to communicate in a respectful way, using responsive listening, no name calling, no cursing.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place. --Shaw
me: Mags, female, pansexual, 59, loving and living with
miss pixi, female, pansexual, 37