I know a lot of people who started out mono but began practicing polyamory later in life, in their 30s, 40s and (me) 50s. Unless you're young and childless or older and child-free, doing poly is very hard. Little kids complicate things, and some people don't want to have their teenagers deal with Mommy or Daddy #2. But once those kids hit college, older but still vital people have a LOT more freedom! Yay, empty nest!
Have you tried OK Cupid?
OTOH, if you're just a depressive pessimistic guy... that could hurt your attraction to others.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
Mags (poly, F, 60) loving miss pixi (poly, F, 39) since January 2009, living together since 2013
also loving Punk (monogamish, former swinger, 42, M) since Oct 2015
"Master," (mono, 34), miss pixi's Dom for 2 years
Last edited by Magdlyn; 11-12-2013 at 11:43 PM.