your views do have a sound feeling to them. thanks. reconnect, re-evaluate, set boundaries. all healthy things to do.
and yes, soft cheating seeing as how involved relationships recently broken but cheating none the less and a definite need to have sum hard core re-evaluating, communication, and well... *gulp* therapy
thanks for the insight on your situation too. sheds sum light. i assumed he was actively hiding as a kind of subconscious or fully conscious thrill? but perhaps it was more like complacency, gray area, boundaries not firmly set kind of situation... hmmm... interesting. actually that would explain A LOT.
none the less what was done by both parties (that is, hiding the relationship from the primary whether it was actively conscious hiding or a slip of communication either way WAS WRONG and was cheating.
THANKS AGAIN FOR ALL YOUR VIEWS GUYS... YOU'RE BEING A HUGE HELP!
basically what i am saying is though this general discussion i am finding out that in a poly relationship you can have an affair/cheat. call it what you want, it is possible.
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